I am not the incredible detail oriented, perfectionist that I once tried to be. Actually.. scratch that definitive statement. Its foolish to think that I am not those things because I can be those things! Those are not outside of my grasp. Placing myself in the box that says, you are this type of person so you should only do this. That limits your potential as an infinitely complex human in an equally complex world. Im not saying we all do this outwardly, but more importantly internally. We are not asked to write a paper and then immediately ask the professor if we can just do a presentation. We do tend to have pre-existing biases about what we are good at, and what we are not. These biases form when we start learning things that are suddenly hard for us, or they take more work then was necessary than before to understand. We take in this knowledge about “who we are” and then, let that framework guide our thinking patterns which inevitably turn those thoughts about ourselves, into self-fulfilling prophecies. Not always getting it right away or having to ask more questions are not signs of weakness, but signs of resilience and conscientiousness.
Alternatively, I am not rejecting the idea that focusing on your strengths is a bad thing; but that to, cannot be swallowed as information like it exists in a vacuum. Obviously every one has strengths, but only doing things that fit those talents will leave you feeling incomplete. I have found that this brings about some vain tendencies. Confidence is merely knowing, but that line where it becomes over-inflated can be crossed all too quickly.
These two things, only focusing on your talents and limiting what other things you “cannot” do because your not “that type of person” are almost like two sides of a gold coin…in giant treasure chest. Understand yourself but don’t let that limit your potentials. Practice the idea that everything you learn about this world, including yourself, needs to be absorbed and added to the collection while not covering up what you previously thought with this knew one.